The next morning I pretended to be asleep as tommy left for work, a  few hours later I found myself still on the couch crying. not knowing if I was the one hurting or if it was my pride. I could not figure out why mothers day weekend 08 had he stayed with someone I know or were they going to be strangers to me. Either way I knew some of the pain came from wounded pride, the other part of me hated to see tommy go but I knew in my heart we could no longer be together. That evening when tommy came home he wanted to talk again I stood my ground. and asked him if it would be ok if we did not discuss the matter any more because I did not care to relive the past.

After about a week of trying to talk to me I finally said "what ever you have to say to me please put it in a letter and I will read it". After allowing myself a week of self pity I was able to get back to work. I thought we may not be specking to each other but we had developed a routine of living with each other without having to live with each other. Tommy wanted to retire at the age of 50 his first wife spent all the money he made picking up hot checks she wrote per tommy.

I have been self employed for almost my whole working life. Once Ricky taught me how to read and write he encouraged me to go to real estate school. I called and they said I did not have to have a ged or a high school diploma so the next day I was setting in class getting a headache from trying to catch up in a world full of knowledge that I want to consume. Tommy he considered himself just a dumb old country boy. He use to tell me that all he ever had to worry about was catching the ball. Shirley his first wife did his homework for him and tommy star player for Silsbee High School. Well financing I understood and I knew if tommy wanted to retire at the age of 50 30.00 an hour was not going to get it at the age of 42. When tommy and I got to gather I had already closed down my shop and was managing a set of storage units for Roger Beard, we agreed I would work for him for a year and i would build the business up and then if he wanted to sell then he would give me first option to buy. He agreed and we shook hands. I started managing the units in 1998 or 99 tommy and I did not meet again until mid 2000.

I closed down shop and started conducting business out of my home. The only thing I continued to sell from the shop was the minerals ( I believe in nutrition ) the units more book work than anything but people would still come to my home to make payments or sign storage contracts.

Tommy and I lived at my home in Lumberton Texas for about 5 years and during that time I witnessed the comradery between tommy the cops, dps, sheriffs department, local pd it did not matter even the judges of this county were long time friends with tommy jasper. One time Lumberton pd pulled me over for not having tags the cop asked me why my tags were expired I told him because my husband had not replaced them yet. he asked me who my husband was I told him tommy jasper the cop looked at my license and said tommy jasper but your last name is dougia i said yes sir tommy refused to take my last name so he kept his and I kept mine. The cop wrote me a ticket and said if tommy jasper is really your husband tell him to call me and I will drop the ticket. That made me mad I looked at that cop and said if you are going to drop the ticket drop it now not because my husband calls you, I believe in what is right not the buddy system. when I got home I gave tommy the ticket he called they laugh about the whole thing--------ticket was dropped. Tommy gets off the phone and said all taken care off he just wanted to make sure you were my wife. I look at tommy and said next time we will pay the ticket. tommy said why you are with me now you get certain privileges---you are in the click now. I said no I am not in your click I stand with john doe public and you can tell your buddy if he is not going to do it for all he should not be doing it for one. Forest with Lumberton pd would put his lights on to pull us over so he could ask tommy some thing or shoot the breeze----when Forest would see tommy open container better known as a Miller Long Neck Forrest would say damn it tommy get out of here with that. When we pulled away I said tommy you should have went to jail for that. Tommy said no other people go to jail for that not me that is why I do not like to leave hardin county---I can commit murder in this county and never spend one day in jail that is the benefits of being in the click. I told tommy he could shove his click it was not right for some peoples lives to be ruined by cops and others untouched. The law are for everybody and just because you do them favors dose not mean you should get away with breaking the laws---that is too double slandered for me.

When Adams girlfriend was in front of the non-honorable judge Brett Plunk the judge sent his stenographers husband to our home on the creek to find out how he should rule. ( Adam Is one of Tommy's sons. ) Tommy told the guy he hated to see a child taken away from the mother but she was not a very good mother but it was the only mother the boy had. Nothing really changed for her all she had before court was visitation and that was about what she had when she left court that day. I had been to Brett Plunks properties many times before with tommy. The judge acquired a piece of property why out in the woods across from the Texas forestry service so tommy and I took some lights out to his property in the bucket truck so he could put them up for his friend and buddy the Judge Brett Plunk. Thinking back now I wonder was I so against the click of hardin county that I failed to see the power of corruption or is it corruption of power. Everyone in Hardin county loves tommy jasper and he is a pretty good ole boy it is his friends in the click that makes him a bad person. As a child growing up here I had always heard the storys about the sheriffs department and how corrupt they were. Sometimes you heard stories about how the sheriffs and deputies would kill a person and frame someone else for the crime. people dying in jail being beat up and how you have to stay in jail either because you need to heal or because they forget to release you for months and I heard about one person being kept a year after his release date. Rumors to some but an air in the county just the same. No one spoke of what we knew deep in our hearts to be true in fear that the rumors were indeed true. People go missing all the time tommy told me one time and when you are the ones who investigate the crime do you really think they are going to go arrest themselves. Tommy said I would rather be friends with them than enemies with them and you need to think about that. I told tommy my forefathers did not fight and die so goons could run America. Sorry I fight for freedom not OPPRESSION and not from no low life sheriff or judge. Tommy replied maybe it is a good thing--I know as long as you feel you are right you will fight to the bitter end and the click you tell their secrets and you don't get out alive me I am to far in I would never get out alive. Better you don't know nothing.

When Kristy White called to tell me that tommy had just left the real estate office and he had told her that he had just taken my name off our joint account and was headed to Russell Wrights office to file for a divorce I should not have surprised me, but it did. I had expected truth and honesty from a man that had the morals of the click. I later come to expect no less from him.

For years tommy had asked me to marry him but I would not. I was and still am a very independent person getting married was not in any of my plans. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him but something inside of me said he had a lot of growing up to do. As time went on and I became more at ease being with him I started thinking about all the great things we could accomplish together. So we set a wedding date but instead of getting married on that day we had to tell everyone that one wild ass women broke us up----hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans, all utilities were down and crews from everywhere was headed that way. I know think god was trying to tell me something. because we set another date but we miss that one too. that wild women's name was hurricane Rita. She took out our whole infrastructure, it took months to recover from the damage. Out of all the devastation god had spared us. the creek property had 5 acres of down timber, the mobile home was barely damaged, the storage buildings maybe 3,000.00 to fix the property in the river bottom about 20 acres downed timber, my home in lumberton patio cover messed up fence damaged by the neighbors tree and a limb barely made a hole in the roof. I was lucky one of my girl friends lost her whole house she had to live in her garage for months. We all lived without electricity food and water for weeks.

                                                                    BETTY'S BLOGG

This is the true story of one womens fight to bring justice to an unjustice system in America. Come along with me as I take you an a journey that leave you in ahh. I wish I could tell you that this is a story about goodness, kindness, being a christian or even what I grew up on as the  American way. I am not sure if we are even in the land of milk and honey anymore. When I was growing up, America was proud, we were strong, We stood for something, we had morals and integrity.

This story is a very long one and will be told in chapters, so come along with me and help me find the answers the need to be questioned.

Not sure were it all went wrong, I knew my husband had a problem keeping unto him self but I had married for better or worse and was determinded to stick it out as long as I could.

Thomas Eugene Jasper Jr. is a locally home grown boy just as I Betty Dougia Jasper, we grew up in the same town, he went to school with one of my brothers. Tommy and I meet later  in life I had went through my divorce with my first husband about five years before I remet tommy.

Ricky Dougia and I grew up togather getting married when I was 16 and he was 18. two young kids married growing up together, full of piss and vinger. We had lots of fun, Ricky is a good man. We grew up togather and then we grew apart but our family never did though. When Ricky and I got our divorce we set new standards in the field. We never went in front of a judge. I got the children live with me for two weeks, then they lived with their dad for two weeks at a time. I took care of my children financially when they were with me and he did the same. Rick's mom had given us our home when we first got married so it was only right that the home stay with him. I had just bought my first business location so 5,000.00 was all I had to pay to him for his equity. It was court ordered that Ricky was to pay child support. that was the one thing we had a problem with. Not because either one of us wanted, we disagreed with the court and felt like it needed to keep it's nose out of our decesssions for our life. So we took the court order then lived life the way we had planned it. My exhusband and his wife are two of my bestest friends in life. Sheila has been good for Ricky and Ricky has been good for her. She helped raise my two children and excepts my two grandbabies with open arms.

When I remet tommy he was married, he had to come and hook up a meter for me and I did not have a ground rod. Ricky was going to bring one by when he got off from work but tommy showed back up with one and installed it for me. I repaid his kindness with a bottle of minerals for my shop. Tommy liked them so much that he came back evey month to get a new bottle, that is how it all begain.

Tommy called me up one night and asked me if he could borrow my couch to sleep on because him and his wife had had a fight, she kicked him out and had no were to stay. I put on a pot of coffee and stayed up all night, well some how that week turned into living together, that turned into a marrage.

Not sure if I was in love or just codependent, I was happy being a free bird. I cared nothing about dating just want to work hard so I could leave my children something when I leave to be with Mother Earth.

I tell everybody tommy was aquaired because we never dated and now here I am living with someone. Maybe it was fate. Not sure!

after about the second year of being with tommy I figured out that he was a person who in the eyes of other women, was candy and he knew it.

Tommy had a charm that was liked by both men and women.

Mother's day week end Thursday, before after mr. Bolton leaves to go home like every night before, Mr. Bolton came over every evening at 3:30pm. to meet tommy as he came home from work they sat on the creek bank until dark then Mr. Bolton would go home. This time when tommy came in from the creek bank the first words to me as he was shuting the patio door was " I am not happy, you work to much, and how soon can you get out. I looked at him in dismaze, no hello, no were is my super, not even a kiss my ass. As I stared at him he asked do you understand me. I replied yes you  want a divorce because I work and you want the marital property. Tommy said yes then turns and walks to his truck and I do not see him again until Monday evening when he comes home from work.

When tommy comes home he wants to talk he had changed his mind he did not want a divorce after all.

This was not my first rodeo with him and every time we got back togather I considered the event as mortor that held our foundation together. Tommy liked to create diversions so he could leave and stay gone for days at a time. That weekend I had realized that tommy was never going to change. So when he asked me if I wanted to get back togather I said tommy I would have never opened that door myself, but now that it is open I am going to walk through it. He went to bed and I slept on the couch.